Sharing is Caring

Dear Bitter/Sweet



I am really in a diffcult situation, i am going out with my girlfriend for more than six years. Every thing is fine , it is just she does not share any thing with me i.e her family problems, her friends etc, when i ask her she says that its privacy the other person would not like if i tell you about their personal matter, then i said the in relationships we meant to share every thing, she does not understand that, she says let me live my own life. I feel that she does not trust me but she says that is not case.I wanted to know am i being weird? or she is right. I just simply dont know i don't feel it right. I have very strong feelings for her and i try to tell her everything of my life regardless , as i feel she needs to know everythink about me, what i think and feel coz she is so important to me, why doesn't she think that way?Please advice... i have already spoken to her various times but she says i dont have to share if someones involved, its about other ppls privacy, i have told her its not about knowing other ppls gossips, its about sharing everything. I feel rejected but she says my views are wrong.. i'll give an example, she only has one sister who was having a very serious affair, infact the guy somehow knew me as well, and she didnt tell me this for three years and i found out about from other sources. It really felt so bad , she said i only lied coz her sister didnt want me to know but her sister told everything to her boyfreind abt me. Anyhow similar matters i love her so much and i know everyone is not perfect, it might be her nature but i m not peaceful.... when i see other ppl around me why v r different...



Dear Friend,

Your right to feel a little cheated. When your in a relationship it should be similar to the bonds of friendship, because relationships ARE friendships. Telling your partner everything, or at least the important things is a statement of trust and commitment. If someone is introverted, and doesn't talk about some of the things that are going on in their lives, it might be because on some level she isn't quite ready for the kind of mature relationship that you have in mind. Maybe it would be a good idea to tell her again how you feel and let her know that there is an aspect of intimacy that is missing from your relationship that you feel there should be after 6 years. If this doesn't convince her to make a change, then you may be better off with a more emotionally mature woman.


Sincerely,
Sweet


Dear Friend,

Your girl is too sneaky! You should tell your partner everything ESPECIALLY after 6 YEARS! If she doesn't respect how you feel and change it then what's the point of being with her! Do you want to marry someone who keeps things from you????? Yea I didn't think so. She doesn't trust you and I'm guessing that either it's because she told you something before and you blabbed, or she is hiding something.. Maybe even lots of things!! If you stay with her, you better keep a closer eye on her. She sounds like TROUBLE.. and another word too but I'll be... nice.. ugh..

Sincerely,
BITTER